I’ve been there kicking, screaming, and crying trying to figure out what went wrong and how things could have been better – caught up in the moment I’ve wanted to have a closure talk with my Ex. I’ve even learned a valuable lesson after allowing my emotions to get the best of me.
After a breakup I was the girl who needed to have the closure talk. I learned closure talks do not work – they actually make things worst.
The top thing most women want to do after a breakup is reconnect with their inner power. Reaching out to your EX puts them in a position of POWER. When you reach out to them after the relationship has ended you make them feel like they have control over you, your emotions, and your ability to heal – no one should have this amount of power over you.
When people are in a position of power it puts you in a position to be taken advantage of or mistreated – You are too good for both.
I get it – It’s hard to accept that the relationship is over, but the truth is you saw the writing on the wall before the relationship ended and you are not going to find resolve by rehashing what went wrong with your Ex.
Breakup recover is an inside job. There is only one person capable of helping you moving forward and that person is you.
Get on the road to healing now by releasing the questions running through your minds.
You can do this by starting a purging journal. The purging journal is a daily journal entry you will complete that will allow you to do a complete brain dump of the things that are cluttering your mind.
Get a pen and open a new page in your journal to start now. Next write down every questions, thought, or concern you have about your Ex, the relationship, the hurt, the pain, things the went wrong, set back, and your greatest fears. Give yourself a week to expand on your entry – do not stop writing until you get it all out.
At the end of the week go to the top of the page and write the date and at the bottom of the page write the date exactly one year from the date at the top of your page.
Finally spend twice the time in pray as you do worrying – ask God to give you peace and clarity concerning the items you have written about. Most important ask him to give you new direction to fulfill your purpose.
In one year revisit this journal entry and see what has been revealed throughout the year and make a note of the lessons learned from your journey.
Thank you for sharing!!!